He loves me, He loves me not… Well, the simple answer is that HE loves all. And according to HIS word we should love all. So how does the question arise? Isn’t the true source of the question related to what we expect of the word love.
So what does it mean to Love? Its funny, because the most common definitions include the words “deep affection” or the emphasis on physical attractions and desires. When I say “I love my cat” I do not have deep affection or physical attractions and desires. The best definition I could find was (4 th on the list) “unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another: as (1) : the fatherly concern of God for humankind (2) : brotherly concern for others b : a person’s adoration of God“. I find it quite interesting that the examples are give are with reference to God, considering that this is how I apply the term Love to everyone and everything. I love the colour green, but I also love the colour red. It does not infer a preference or a priority associated with a deep affection.
So isn’t love inherit in all. We love our family, our friends, our pets – without any questions asked. So why would we even ask the question of “he loves me, he loves me not”? Is it not because we want more in fact than love? In the terms of relationships, we ask the question because we want to be the most special person in that persons eyes. In a sense, is this not a form of greed? And how is this perception of ourselves developed? Is it human nature or is it ingrained in the competitive spirit that the capitalist world imposes on us? But then does the socialist or communist society invoke a sense of love for one another either? We clearly live in a materialistic world where we all require to have everything to be perfect. And with a culture of everything with a used-by-date we no longer need to reason and compromise.
So how do we avoid asking the question of whether “he loves me or not”? Perhaps an answer is to always show belief, trust and faith in all those we meet and see. Take the approach of “innocent until proven guilty”. And try to avoid the selfish question of “He love me or He love me not”. Because if we have belief, trust and faith in all and everything before us, then we will have belief, trust and faith in ourselves. At which point, there is no need to ask the question!
– Maestro di Amore